Family Enhancement Goals & Objectives
Goal: To strengthen and support the members of families in community, create more avenues to meet basic needs.
Focus One: Material needs and household items.
How: Set up a local marketplace and sharing club for members, including items for sale, items for trade, and items for free. Local currency could be engaged. Members bring what is extra, to put into this store. The idea is to get the condition of personal household goods up to a level that is uplifting to the people who live there, as well as reduce the financial burden upon the family.
Also. intake all the castoffs from members to help people get rid of depressing broken-down stuff and to support recycling.
Other possible methods to increase local sources and exchange: develop and maintain “wish lists” for everyone, to enable group members to rethink their sources and offer possibilities to each other.
Another possible resource to develop might be a service to photograph and list local items for sale at internet auction. The exact plans or methods can be determined by experiment, or by other group processes, in building the neighborhood Exchange.
Focus Two: Companionship, communication, playmates for children, peer companionship for parents.
How: Host movie nights, playdays, games, dances, parties, support groups, classes, any peer or whole family gatherings for
members.
Focus Three: Develop support among peers to gain perspective on Interpersonal Conflicts between family members.
How: Set up Sanctuary spaces for Fellowship with peers, and privacy from all others.
Identify that sometimes parents get swallowed up by the demands of the child, lose their sense of self always trying to make the child happy. This naturally leads to conflict, because the parent is a person with needs and feelings, too.
If one room of the Fellowship Hall is reserved for “adults only”, parents can retreat from a domineering child and get permission and practice in recognizing their own feelings and needs as important, too.
Identify also, that sometimes children get swallowed up by the demands of the parent and lose their sense of self always trying to make the parent happy. This naturally leads to conflict.
If rooms in the Fellowship Hall are reserved for “children only,” “boys only” and “girls only” children can retreat from an upset or confused parent and get on with their important business of playing.
Identify that marriage partners can also get swallowed up by the demands of the other, and lose their sense of self, always trying to make the other happy. This naturally leads to conflict.
If rooms are set up in the Fellowship Hall for “women only” and for “men only,” marriage partners can take a break and find support in identifying their own thoughts and feelings as important, too.
If members defend the various Fellowship spaces as peer sanctuary AT ALL TIMES, it is much easier and more peaceful to fall back on these limits during times of high stress or family conflict. Fellowship spaces are not just for “getting away” from family stresses, but also for building relationships with one’s peers. Group projects can be planned as peer collaborations, using Fellowship spaces for meetings and management.
Focus Four: Some chores at home are harder to do than others, consequently, don’t get done in a satisfying way.
How: Identify that everybody has different strengths and weakness. Find ways to share strong parts and take pressure off of weaknesses.
We are all different people, each made to serve a special purpose, different from the purpose of everybody else. Each of us can identify what we best like to do. Each of us can easily identify what we especially don’t like doing, but have had to do, in our nuclear family homes.
Try different systems of “chore swapping” between the members, so that everybody can get out of doing the thingthat they hate most of all. If it doesn’t work the first time, try another arrangement.
Completely subtracting the worst part of one’s routine chores, while getting basic needs met more comfortably than ever, makes a lot of difference in the enjoyment available in daily life. Aim to consolidate some chores within the Fellowship Hall, such as having meals in common.
Focus Five: The challenge of our shared heritage in being generally traumatized peoples.
How: Identify that what happened to us when we were little stays with us inside, even if we don’t remember it all clearly.
Additionally, our family histories all carry some degree of traumatic events. Old hurts and fears can keep us from building satisfying situations and relationships.
There are therapies and helps available for recovery and personal growth. We can aim as an assembly to bring in teachers and practitioners to offer various types of healing or classes in self-help.
Focus One: Material needs and household items.
How: Set up a local marketplace and sharing club for members, including items for sale, items for trade, and items for free. Local currency could be engaged. Members bring what is extra, to put into this store. The idea is to get the condition of personal household goods up to a level that is uplifting to the people who live there, as well as reduce the financial burden upon the family.
Also. intake all the castoffs from members to help people get rid of depressing broken-down stuff and to support recycling.
Other possible methods to increase local sources and exchange: develop and maintain “wish lists” for everyone, to enable group members to rethink their sources and offer possibilities to each other.
Another possible resource to develop might be a service to photograph and list local items for sale at internet auction. The exact plans or methods can be determined by experiment, or by other group processes, in building the neighborhood Exchange.
Focus Two: Companionship, communication, playmates for children, peer companionship for parents.
How: Host movie nights, playdays, games, dances, parties, support groups, classes, any peer or whole family gatherings for
members.
Focus Three: Develop support among peers to gain perspective on Interpersonal Conflicts between family members.
How: Set up Sanctuary spaces for Fellowship with peers, and privacy from all others.
Identify that sometimes parents get swallowed up by the demands of the child, lose their sense of self always trying to make the child happy. This naturally leads to conflict, because the parent is a person with needs and feelings, too.
If one room of the Fellowship Hall is reserved for “adults only”, parents can retreat from a domineering child and get permission and practice in recognizing their own feelings and needs as important, too.
Identify also, that sometimes children get swallowed up by the demands of the parent and lose their sense of self always trying to make the parent happy. This naturally leads to conflict.
If rooms in the Fellowship Hall are reserved for “children only,” “boys only” and “girls only” children can retreat from an upset or confused parent and get on with their important business of playing.
Identify that marriage partners can also get swallowed up by the demands of the other, and lose their sense of self, always trying to make the other happy. This naturally leads to conflict.
If rooms are set up in the Fellowship Hall for “women only” and for “men only,” marriage partners can take a break and find support in identifying their own thoughts and feelings as important, too.
If members defend the various Fellowship spaces as peer sanctuary AT ALL TIMES, it is much easier and more peaceful to fall back on these limits during times of high stress or family conflict. Fellowship spaces are not just for “getting away” from family stresses, but also for building relationships with one’s peers. Group projects can be planned as peer collaborations, using Fellowship spaces for meetings and management.
Focus Four: Some chores at home are harder to do than others, consequently, don’t get done in a satisfying way.
How: Identify that everybody has different strengths and weakness. Find ways to share strong parts and take pressure off of weaknesses.
We are all different people, each made to serve a special purpose, different from the purpose of everybody else. Each of us can identify what we best like to do. Each of us can easily identify what we especially don’t like doing, but have had to do, in our nuclear family homes.
Try different systems of “chore swapping” between the members, so that everybody can get out of doing the thingthat they hate most of all. If it doesn’t work the first time, try another arrangement.
Completely subtracting the worst part of one’s routine chores, while getting basic needs met more comfortably than ever, makes a lot of difference in the enjoyment available in daily life. Aim to consolidate some chores within the Fellowship Hall, such as having meals in common.
Focus Five: The challenge of our shared heritage in being generally traumatized peoples.
How: Identify that what happened to us when we were little stays with us inside, even if we don’t remember it all clearly.
Additionally, our family histories all carry some degree of traumatic events. Old hurts and fears can keep us from building satisfying situations and relationships.
There are therapies and helps available for recovery and personal growth. We can aim as an assembly to bring in teachers and practitioners to offer various types of healing or classes in self-help.
