Yes Ways Out

​With my writing, I share a map for healthy consciousness, and show how proactive routines and ground rules in community can protect and enhance consciousness in people and their communities.  Safety and consciousness are closely linked. Parents often pretend that their children are safest when they are the most "under control."  The truth is that children, or anyone in a family, are safest when they have built-in "yes-way-out" options; combined with up-front agreements that all members of the family really are entitled to have their needs met.

Abuse patterns act like a contagious disease.  We are equipped with healthy urges to not succumb to these diseases. These social-immunity responses are innately present in all of us, especially children.  When I say we can end child abuse, I'm talking about leveling the domestic playing field, so that the forces of health are allowed to operate, and prove they are stronger than the force of the disease.

• If we examine the structure of a no-way-out scenario
• and consider common types of assault patterns
• and then set a goal to build ways-out into domestic daily life
• we can nurture healthy responses,
• do massive damage control,
• continually lessening the impact of inherited family dysfunction
• equipping the generally dependent to have options
• within defined boundaries
• which allow continuity of family bonds
• yet discontinuity of the toxicity that these familial bonds can carry.