Immunity in Community, RC Lingo
Depriving children of liberty and free assembly sets the stage for pattern installation by the parents. But the flip side is that these same actions can protect children from hazardous exposure outside the family, as well. Inhuman patterns are contagious diseases, as mechanical and dangerous as small pox or diphtheria. Granting blanket liberties to children in our world as it is can be like setting them loose in a buffet where each food is poisoned in a different way. You don't find out until after you've eaten.
The key to giving choices to children and having it work out is to create lifestyle choices that are appealing and safe. The advent of full Constitutional rights for children works from two sides to improve their lives. It will allow children to walk out of really bad situations. But it will also motivate parents to make important changes to better meet young people's needs.
Granting legal rights for children through the law makes sense only when it is part of an integrated change that applies human rights on all levels. We bring the etheric concept of Constitutional human rights down to Earth by applying basic rights, day to day.
"Applied human rights" means that we create physical systems to give substance to the "rights" we aim to grant by way of law. We create a logistic community that makes it possible to claim free assembly with peers at any moment. We put peer-circle gathering spaces in the middle of the community. The community must be a compact neighborhood to eliminate the need for cars, enabling true free assembly for everyone... including toddlers.
We make it physically possible for all to claim privacy at any moment. Within a human rights community, each person (married or not) must have their own room, with a door and a lock.
We don't need to completely dismantle abusive patterns in parents by long term and thorough discharge in order to dramatically reduce the incidence of assault, thus blocking contagion to the children. With applied human rights, we can create change in the interactions even in very troubled families very quickly, and without adding the trauma of grief by taking families apart.
I want to show a way of thinking about child abuse and neglect that will enable us to extinct these most extreme patterns, for the entire culture, within two generations.
The mainstream society needs a new definition of child abuse... what it is to be a "child-abuser." What I see is that inhuman patterns disable people. What I also see is that patterns are especially contagious along the bond lines that are formed within families. Consider the archetype chronic pattern: we think we cannot survive without it. We will also be consciously or unconsciously convinced that our children cannot live without it. Anyone with a chronic pattern will try to install that pattern in their children... often believing they have the best of intentions. The system of installation, in the extreme, becomes "child abuse." All pattern installations result in the disabling of children, the disabling of human beings. Only a small fraction of these processes have been labeled "criminal."
But whether we call the patterns criminal or think they are necessary, they all follow the same general formula. They rely upon the suppression of human rights to free speech, free assembly, liberty and privacy in order to take hold. Applying these rights directly will reverse the entire spectrum of installations.
The whole idea of applied human rights calls for long term, even permanent arrangements (this will be the way to rehumanize distribution and labor and defeat consumerism), but we should be able to test the human rights formula and find out something even in a short interval.
One way to experiment might be with a week long "summer camp" intensive for family enhancement, for instance. Summer weather allows primitive fixtures to be adequate, so the cost of setting up is reduced.
The basic plan is to immerse families in a physical community format that is human rights affirmative by floor plan, ground rules, and general logistics.
We start with the notion that every family is infected with patterns, some mild, some not so mild. Many of the patterns that the parents brought with them will have been passed to their children and will be evident in the form of disfigured bonds. For instance, one member attempts to "own" or control the other; when successfully implanted, both members believe that virtue involves someone sacrificing self to the other.
Young people are often quite ready to battle these patterns at any moment. Their discharge systems may still be strong. But their healing process is held back by the immediate status quo, the oppression that is institutionalized in their family by being entrenched in their parents, and in the surrounding community and law.
Every family has the drive of contagion within it, maintaining the level of the patterned infection, even if the well-meaning parents don't intend it. This is demonstrated most dramatically by parents who do try to defeat their undischarged patterns by acting the opposite way. Instead of being dominating, they allow the children to dominate them... until something jolts them into awareness that they have been "the victim" again, and then a surge of anger flips the whole process back the other way.
An oscillating pattern of rescue-assault occurs. The more the parent tries to reverse what they have done, the more intensely the feelings build-up to the next episode of assault. Another factor that leads to repeated assault can be the strong drive to recovery in the healthiest children. This can provoke repeated attempts to installation.
The applied human rights formula will enable the healthier party to move out of a vulnerable position and immediately discharge the thwarted attempt whenever the installation process is on the move. This blocks contagion and sets up a retroactive recovery for past events.
Interestingly, this same logistical configuration that strengthens the resistance in the child creates a side effect of flushing of parental chronic patterns into accessibility. With attention these will readily move into discharge phase.
I am very interested in confirming by experiment that this whole thing will pop chronic patterns in all involved. I have seen much evidence of this potentiality in my personal and family history. If something like body work or Rolfing were added to the picture, I don't see how it couldn't work to step down the entire group, in a sustainable way, into a lower stress arrangement.
The gripping and undeniable contradiction is this: parents or spouses will see their loved ones, with whom they identify deeply, not succumb. The primordial feelings, the suppression of which has been the adhesion keeping the pattern in place, will come out immediately. What has been buried will suddenly be "on top."
This means that the healing power of the child (or the strongest member) will be driving the recovery process for the whole family. The child will drag the parent's healing capacity up to their level, rather than the parent dragging the child down to theirs - which is what is likely to be happening in families now. For that matter, the healing push for the whole collection of families will be driven by the strongest child's spirit... a fountain which can be phenomenal.
Powerlessness that was installed in all of us as children keeps us from claiming appropriate command over ourselves and our material spaces now. A direction for parents to move into is that of stepping into appropriate command positions over physical spaces and functions... which is very different from control positions over people. Appropriate command over physical spaces and functions is the way of maintaining the physical plant that is the community estate, and continuing to serve food etc.
Just because we grant our children general liberty does not mean that we make no rules over the use of our spaces. Being very exacting about what behavior is expected in any certain context is instructive, not oppressive, if involvement in that context is always voluntary.
And we have no reason to expect that "schooling" will be discarded by the liberated child. However, reformation of education techniques will be demanded.
The model of setting up games comes to mind. Games have rules. Children love to play games, especially when adults set them up. Teaching can be done in the vein of "playing school." Children who won't play by the rules are sent off of the "playing field"... out of the classroom.
A balanced healthy relationship within family is one wherein both members maintain appropriate command over themselves... this allows both to negotiate beautifully with the other. The ability for all to negotiate mutually satisfying relationships within family is our goal. The child hears the parent express their human needs and respects that. The parent hears the child express their human needs and respects that. There becomes space in the relationship for both to be entire human beings.
Liberty and rights to privacy allow each member of every primary bond dyad (spouse-spouse, child-parent, sibling-sibling) stand back from the relationship at interval, when they need to re-evaluate the contract they have been maintaining. Free assembly with peers allows each member to hash out with their peer(s), what has been happening within their family and get a new perspective.
Relationships within families can be expected to "step up" into balance incrementally, with each new stage being introduced by a session of discharge. Family or marital "fights," handled as opportunities for discharge and re-evaluation, will herald positive change every time. Though the ultimate goal is to create a continuously harmonious arrangement, during the transition we will learn to experience conflict as a creative and positive event.
The key to giving choices to children and having it work out is to create lifestyle choices that are appealing and safe. The advent of full Constitutional rights for children works from two sides to improve their lives. It will allow children to walk out of really bad situations. But it will also motivate parents to make important changes to better meet young people's needs.
Granting legal rights for children through the law makes sense only when it is part of an integrated change that applies human rights on all levels. We bring the etheric concept of Constitutional human rights down to Earth by applying basic rights, day to day.
"Applied human rights" means that we create physical systems to give substance to the "rights" we aim to grant by way of law. We create a logistic community that makes it possible to claim free assembly with peers at any moment. We put peer-circle gathering spaces in the middle of the community. The community must be a compact neighborhood to eliminate the need for cars, enabling true free assembly for everyone... including toddlers.
We make it physically possible for all to claim privacy at any moment. Within a human rights community, each person (married or not) must have their own room, with a door and a lock.
We don't need to completely dismantle abusive patterns in parents by long term and thorough discharge in order to dramatically reduce the incidence of assault, thus blocking contagion to the children. With applied human rights, we can create change in the interactions even in very troubled families very quickly, and without adding the trauma of grief by taking families apart.
I want to show a way of thinking about child abuse and neglect that will enable us to extinct these most extreme patterns, for the entire culture, within two generations.
The mainstream society needs a new definition of child abuse... what it is to be a "child-abuser." What I see is that inhuman patterns disable people. What I also see is that patterns are especially contagious along the bond lines that are formed within families. Consider the archetype chronic pattern: we think we cannot survive without it. We will also be consciously or unconsciously convinced that our children cannot live without it. Anyone with a chronic pattern will try to install that pattern in their children... often believing they have the best of intentions. The system of installation, in the extreme, becomes "child abuse." All pattern installations result in the disabling of children, the disabling of human beings. Only a small fraction of these processes have been labeled "criminal."
But whether we call the patterns criminal or think they are necessary, they all follow the same general formula. They rely upon the suppression of human rights to free speech, free assembly, liberty and privacy in order to take hold. Applying these rights directly will reverse the entire spectrum of installations.
The whole idea of applied human rights calls for long term, even permanent arrangements (this will be the way to rehumanize distribution and labor and defeat consumerism), but we should be able to test the human rights formula and find out something even in a short interval.
One way to experiment might be with a week long "summer camp" intensive for family enhancement, for instance. Summer weather allows primitive fixtures to be adequate, so the cost of setting up is reduced.
The basic plan is to immerse families in a physical community format that is human rights affirmative by floor plan, ground rules, and general logistics.
We start with the notion that every family is infected with patterns, some mild, some not so mild. Many of the patterns that the parents brought with them will have been passed to their children and will be evident in the form of disfigured bonds. For instance, one member attempts to "own" or control the other; when successfully implanted, both members believe that virtue involves someone sacrificing self to the other.
Young people are often quite ready to battle these patterns at any moment. Their discharge systems may still be strong. But their healing process is held back by the immediate status quo, the oppression that is institutionalized in their family by being entrenched in their parents, and in the surrounding community and law.
Every family has the drive of contagion within it, maintaining the level of the patterned infection, even if the well-meaning parents don't intend it. This is demonstrated most dramatically by parents who do try to defeat their undischarged patterns by acting the opposite way. Instead of being dominating, they allow the children to dominate them... until something jolts them into awareness that they have been "the victim" again, and then a surge of anger flips the whole process back the other way.
An oscillating pattern of rescue-assault occurs. The more the parent tries to reverse what they have done, the more intensely the feelings build-up to the next episode of assault. Another factor that leads to repeated assault can be the strong drive to recovery in the healthiest children. This can provoke repeated attempts to installation.
The applied human rights formula will enable the healthier party to move out of a vulnerable position and immediately discharge the thwarted attempt whenever the installation process is on the move. This blocks contagion and sets up a retroactive recovery for past events.
Interestingly, this same logistical configuration that strengthens the resistance in the child creates a side effect of flushing of parental chronic patterns into accessibility. With attention these will readily move into discharge phase.
I am very interested in confirming by experiment that this whole thing will pop chronic patterns in all involved. I have seen much evidence of this potentiality in my personal and family history. If something like body work or Rolfing were added to the picture, I don't see how it couldn't work to step down the entire group, in a sustainable way, into a lower stress arrangement.
The gripping and undeniable contradiction is this: parents or spouses will see their loved ones, with whom they identify deeply, not succumb. The primordial feelings, the suppression of which has been the adhesion keeping the pattern in place, will come out immediately. What has been buried will suddenly be "on top."
This means that the healing power of the child (or the strongest member) will be driving the recovery process for the whole family. The child will drag the parent's healing capacity up to their level, rather than the parent dragging the child down to theirs - which is what is likely to be happening in families now. For that matter, the healing push for the whole collection of families will be driven by the strongest child's spirit... a fountain which can be phenomenal.
Powerlessness that was installed in all of us as children keeps us from claiming appropriate command over ourselves and our material spaces now. A direction for parents to move into is that of stepping into appropriate command positions over physical spaces and functions... which is very different from control positions over people. Appropriate command over physical spaces and functions is the way of maintaining the physical plant that is the community estate, and continuing to serve food etc.
Just because we grant our children general liberty does not mean that we make no rules over the use of our spaces. Being very exacting about what behavior is expected in any certain context is instructive, not oppressive, if involvement in that context is always voluntary.
And we have no reason to expect that "schooling" will be discarded by the liberated child. However, reformation of education techniques will be demanded.
The model of setting up games comes to mind. Games have rules. Children love to play games, especially when adults set them up. Teaching can be done in the vein of "playing school." Children who won't play by the rules are sent off of the "playing field"... out of the classroom.
A balanced healthy relationship within family is one wherein both members maintain appropriate command over themselves... this allows both to negotiate beautifully with the other. The ability for all to negotiate mutually satisfying relationships within family is our goal. The child hears the parent express their human needs and respects that. The parent hears the child express their human needs and respects that. There becomes space in the relationship for both to be entire human beings.
Liberty and rights to privacy allow each member of every primary bond dyad (spouse-spouse, child-parent, sibling-sibling) stand back from the relationship at interval, when they need to re-evaluate the contract they have been maintaining. Free assembly with peers allows each member to hash out with their peer(s), what has been happening within their family and get a new perspective.
Relationships within families can be expected to "step up" into balance incrementally, with each new stage being introduced by a session of discharge. Family or marital "fights," handled as opportunities for discharge and re-evaluation, will herald positive change every time. Though the ultimate goal is to create a continuously harmonious arrangement, during the transition we will learn to experience conflict as a creative and positive event.
